By: Aaron Tang
I was watching “The Bachelor” today. For those of you who have better things to do on weekday nights, it’s a reality show in which a number of women vie for the romantic affections of an eligible bachelor. Women are ‘eliminated’ every week, until the Bachelor finally decides on the winner of the season, and hopefully decides to propose to her. Hopefully – because at the end, the bachelor can actually choose not to propose to the remaining girl, but remain as a bachelor.
It struck me as very unnatural. Where else in the free world can you find twenty five (kind of) attractive women living under one roof while trying to b*tch/betray their way to the heart of one extremely attractive man? That only happens in absolute monarchies where (if you believe the press) young virgins want to all marry the fat, balding king. Reality is a strange thing.
In your daily reality though, have you ever realized that women usually have a lot more options than men? Think about it. I read this once and I fully agree: an average looking woman will get hit on a lot more times than even a fairly attractive man. A pretty girl will have so many approaches that she’ll often have to ignore guys, because she doesn’t have the time or energy to deal with the numbers.
“Wait” you say – “all the guys that hit on me are either unavailable or fat and balding. Where are all the good men?” Sure, every girl wishes for her prince charming to be 6 foot tall with a deep voice, driving up in a 6-series BMW, with a 6-figure salary (at least), and also happens to volunteer for 6 charities in his spare time. Unfortunately, there aren’t too many of these kinds of guys around. Most of us guys aren’t so anatomically perfect, just hold regular jobs, and the only 6-digits in our banks are our PIN numbers.
So here’s my message this week. As a guy, sometimes it’s not easy to vie for the attention of a fair maiden like yourself. Apart from dealing with our own insecurities, and trying hard to bring out our best for you – sometimes we have to compete for your attentions with a dozen other horny guys. I’m not complaining here though. You have every right to demand the attention that guys give you (assuming you’re beautiful from the core of course).
You’re worth it. You’re the chooser.
But like the dramatized contestants on ‘The Bachelor’, we have feelings that can be hurt too. If you must reject a guy, please do it firmly, but mercifully. And do give a thought to the guys who do approach you sincerely. They might not be perfect, they might not have great ‘game’ – but good things may happen if you do give them a chance.
On a side note, historically only a very low percentage of the winner and the Bachelor actually got married. And those who did eventually got separated too. Which leads me to conclude again that 25 women vying for the attention of 1 man doesn’t really work. Now, 1 man vying for 25 women – that’s a thought…