U pon reading the title of this article, some of you may start foaming at the mouth. Hold your horses! This isn’t one of those “be a whore in bed to keep your man” articles. It’s simply an article about being good to your significant other. It’s sad that this needs to be said, but it appears that many women these days, in their quest to be “strong” and “confident”, turn into massive bullies instead. So here are a few little reminders, that he’s your man, not your dog.
Reminder #1:
It’s not his job to keep you happy!
I’ve come to notice that a lot of girls seem to think that their boyfriends are their emotional outlets. PMS-ing? Eat some chocolates! Had a bad day at work? Talk about it, don’t scream at him for the dumbest little things just so you have a reason to vent! Take control of your own emotions, because if you don’t he’s going to get sick of it one day and just walk out the door.
Reminder #2:
Buy your own sh*t!
This one seems to apply to almost every girl out there. Just the other day I stood in line at a counter behind a girl whose boyfriend sadly handed over his credit card for a charge of over RM2000! Girls I know even go so far as to make their boyfriends take them shopping and then insist they pay for every single item. They work hard for their money! How would you feel if you work so hard for your pay only to have a priceless freeloader squander it all away on tank tops and mini skirts? Have some dignity, he’s not your sugar daddy. Work hard to buy the things you want. If you can’t afford it, you don’t need it.
Reminder #3
He’s your boyfriend, not your dad!
I know girls who expect their boyfriends to drive them around, buy them dinner and pay their bills. Excuse me, he’s not your dad, it’s not his job to take care of you! Furthermore, you’re a grown woman, shouldn’t
you be doing these things yourself? Learn to be independent so that if he were to leave you, you wouldn’t be stranded in a gutter somewhere, starving to death.
Reminder #4
His time does not belong to you!
It’s reasonable for you to want to spend time with your boyfriend, but you must not expect him to only have time for you and no one else. I know a guy who spends all day with his girlfriend and then later have to leave a boys night out early because his girlfriend insisted they spend hours talking on the phone. If you’re one of those girls, I’d suggest you get a hobby, get some friends and get a life. Before he loses all his friends and you find yourselves stuck in a codependent relationship that is not based on love but based on desperation instead.
So there you have it ladies, 4 blatantly honest truths women should know but many don’t seem to. I hope I haven’t offended any of you but I’m afraid these things need to be said, whether for your sake or for the sake of the poor fool you’re bullying to death.
Remember, if you want to be treated like a queen, you’ll have to treat him like a king.
Totally agree~ in many relationship, girls are queen, guys are slave.
What are these? Love?
Great list, but it’s definitely so much more than these.
Hi, Justin, I totally agree…what happened to equally relationships. Most respectable girls don’t want door mats for boyfriends anyway… Yes, any relationships worth its salt is not dependable on a general list but will define their own …
Brilliant!. Lavendar, all Malaysian men are indebted to you for this. Some may not realise it yet, but they will.
Thank you!
Definitely need to be read by the ladies. ;p