I s lying in a relationship really such a bad thing the way people say it is? Or is a little lie once in a while OK if it doesn’t hurt anybody? The truth is, everybody has probably told a lie at some point or other in their relationships. The question is, how bad the lie is and to what extent would it affect your relationship.
Personally I feel that if you tell a little white lie that really is not going to do much damage to anyone, then it probably is all right and not such a big deal after all. Say for example your partner is already having a bad day and she asks you if she looks fat in her outfit and you say no – even though she may look a teeny bit fat because the outfit doesn’t flatter her very well – because you want her to feel good about herself, then I would say that is pretty harmless lie isn’t it? It’s not outright hurting anyone, and everyone feels good about themselves in the end. So no harm done.
Telling a little lie once in a while in a relationship quite frankly is OK, so long as nobody gets hurt in the process and it really doesn’t do any damage. But of course the real problem would occur when you don’t know when to draw the line between harmless lying, and lying that could quite frankly jeopardize your relationship.
A lie that could harm your relationship for example, is when you withhold crucial information, such as hiding your true whereabouts from your partner. Guys especially, please take note of this. Never underestimate a woman, because you’ll be surprised at how you can get caught in a lie and once you break that trust…well….you better be man enough to stand up to the consequences of an angry and hurt woman.
Remember that every time you tell a lie, you run the risk of getting caught, no matter how well you think you may have covered your tracks. You not only run the risk of getting caught, but you run the risk of ruining your relationship and the trust between you and you’re partner as well.
So the next time to plan on telling a lie ask yourself, am I hurting anyone by telling this?
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white lies like “does my butt look big in this? of course not!” probably wouldn’t hurt anyone, but at the end of the day lying ALWAYS hurts someone on some level – not worth it.
I so agree…the first lie is always easy…somehow it is just to easy and then one lie leads to another; when is a lie a little or a big lie? How does one make the differentiation…best not to start at all. Honesty is truly the best policy sometimes…but maybe painful in short run but pays off more in long run…